Why are women often making excuses for their man’s behavior? We need to do better.
We need to be stronger & learn not to just deal with the bullshit but address it. If a man chooses to be in a relationship, he is choosing to be connected to you and all that comes with you. So once he has made that decision he needs to act like it. If he does something you disagree with, you have a choice to deal with it or move on.
You’ve been in a relationship for two years and you and your partner decided to take the step of moving in together. In the beginning everything was great, you would cook him dinner and he would rub your feet after a long day at work.
Then the honeymoon phase wore off and shit got real. He started switching things up on you. You found yourself watching the shows you use to watch together alone. You come home to an empty house 6 out of 7 days a week and he doesn’t even ask you how your day was.
Now ladies, here is where we often go wrong. We start questioning ourselves as if we did something wrong.
“Does he not want to be with me anymore?”
“Did I do something to upset him?”
“Is he upset because he didn’t get some the other night?”
What we really should be doing is approaching the situation head on. Explain the way you’ve been feeling openly and honestly. If you are feeling disrespected, unappreciated or lonely let him know
USE YOUR WORDS!!!
“Babe you have been staying out much later than you use to and it’s beginning to upset me”.
“Babe the other night I cooked dinner and you didn’t come home in time for us to eat together. When I asked you why you said you were busy. That hurt my feelings”.
You need to name the behaviors he has showcased and eliminate sentences like…
“When you did that the other night, you pissed me off”
Men want to know what “that” is, and we need to spell it out for them. Once this conversation has been had it is up to your man to make the changes necessary to put your mind at ease.
Remember you do not need to stay in a relationship out of fear of being alone.
F not wanting to be alone, what happened to being respected?